Diary of a nice Lagos guy

Prologue 

Part one

Have you ever been called a nice guy before? Doesn't matter by whom. Do you get a warm feeling in your stomach or joy whenever someone tells you how nice you are, for example “you are the nicest person I have met”, ever found yourself blushing especially if those words came out of the lips of the opposite sex. Well, I have been there and I am still here, I tell myself that being nice is part of my nature; there is nothing wrong with being a nice guy.  Or is there?

a.       Nice- ( middle English) In the sense stupid
(Old French/Latin) Ignorant
b.       Nice – to be kind and friendly…..


Example 1. How to use nice (Middle English) in a sentence.

a.    Tony walked under the rain to his girlfriend’s office to drop her lunch and walked another 20 mins back to his house on an empty stomach; tony is a really nice guy.

Introduction

I want to use this medium to express myself, by staying anonymous I am more relaxed and can share a lot more this way. I always thought being a nice guy was what ladies really wanted but recent events have started cripping doubts in my mind.

 I’m the kind of guy who would open the car door for his girlfriend, wait for her in the saloon while she made her hair, take walks on the beach holding hands with my lover. I thought I was the most romantic guy in the world and sometimes I think to myself any girl who gets married to me will be the luckiest girl in the world, I would treat her like a queen.  I pictured my love life to end up like them Disney cartoons, I believed when I saw/met my soul mate I would know like one of them Julia Roberts movies where there is the whole love at 1^st sight issh……..

”With Romeo and Juliet, you're talking about two people who met one night, and got married the same night. I believe in love at first sight-but it hasn't happened to me yet”. Leonardo DiCaprio

Before I start all of the names have been change to avoid any problems, also everything is not always as it seems. My story starts when my girlfriend Tobi of almost 6 years broke up with me on Valentine’s Day, some of you may not believe this but I was faithful all through the relationship, except for the time I accidentally kissed my close friend in school, shade. It was 2 months into the relationship, when me and shade where studying for a test. We had a brief moment where our eyes locked and we kissed for like 10 secs before I stopped the whole thing….. I felt so guilty that I had wronged the love of my life. I made a promise to myself that it will never happen again and so it stayed.

My girlfriend of 6 years calls me on Valentine’s Day morning 2012 only to break up with me, my friends ate the chocolates and champagne I specially ordered from outside the country, they were her favorites.

I got to learn some months after the break up that my ex dumped me to date the guy she introduced to me as her cousin. Tears rolled down my eyes, my heart beat was like that of a Terry g jam, that plantation boys’ song “cousin cousin” just kept playing in my head. I had known her cousin Kevin for almost 3 years now we all went to see a movie once… Me him and Tobi.

“As I look through your window na ur cousin I see they press your yash ooo, when I ask you, you say na something him wan take for your pocket….” Plantation Boys.

I got over the break up it took a while though, my man Chidi, my childhood friend was always around to cheer me up. I enjoy his company but sometimes we argue over the fact that he thinks I am to nice and people always take advantage of me. Love the guy to bits though; never afraid to say the truth the boy has got my back.

About

After tobi left me I went through a lot before I could discover who I really was, people said I was a nice guy. I began to question myself is being nice a bad thing, all my life people told me to be a nice person a good man and good things will follow, everybody likes the good guys when they do good but dislikes them when they can’t do bad. I have a story to share which will be in 8 parts within each part of the 8 I will be sharing 2 stories, diary entries from  before and after the breakup. My experience and journey of being a nice guy in a city that never sleeps, a city filled with hopes and dreams my story is a bit complicated but bare with me as it will all make sense in the very end that I can promise. This is my diary to the world the dairy of a nice Lagos guy.

Chapter one

March 10 2011

 Friday

Chidi came over today upset because he thinks something is going on between Tobi and Kevin. I wonder what is wrong with Chidi like it’s a crime for cousins to go to the club together.  I should build up the courage to ask this babe to marry me sef. Man don dy old lol choi…

November 15 2009

Sunday

Met Tobis cousin today Kevin. Went to see zombie land at the cinemas, not a bad movie. That Kevin has a big head sha, lol. I wonder if I should tell her that I didn't feel comfortable with her cousin joining us on our date. Maybe I’m thinking too much sef….

Chapter 2

June 4 2007

Saturday

I think I just met the girl of my dreams, been thinking about her all day. It was like love at 1^st sight, I think I should cool down and not scare this one off, but she sure is beautiful.  Can’t wait to see her again tomorrow.

June 13 2007

Wednesday

Had a big fight with shade today, she doesn’t like the fact that I’m spending so much on gifts for Tobi. I think she is jealous; I almost kissed her today wonder what’s wrong with me.  I hope Tobi likes the gift I got her. So excited…..

June 14 2007

Thursday

Just got off the phone with Tobi, she loved the gift. I think it’s high time I asked her to be my babe sef. I feel she is the woman I’m going to be spending the rest of my life with, I’ll just have to settle with dreaming about us together again this night. I will def be asking her out this week.

August 19 2007

Sunday

She said yes, finally I have her for me. I can’t wait to tell Chidi tomorrow, I bet he will be shocked. I guess he was wrong, “nice guys” as he puts it also get babes. I am so going to rub it in his face lol. Can’t believe Tobi is mine at last. I found my soul mate.